Stuttering is one of those things that can be awkward, baffling, joyful and uncomfortable, often all at once, depending on the day and the person living it.
When I was young, I hated it! I desperately wanted to blend in, and to be that “normal” person who could speak. My blocks and repetitions felt embarrassing and impossible to explain.
Today? I love my stutter! I’ve taken ownership of it and people no longer laugh at me (well, most people) they laugh with me.
I’ve turned what once felt like my biggest limitation into my elite skill, public speaking at events around the world. Still, on and off stage, at events and in conversations, I’ve realised that many people don’t understand what stuttering is.
Here’s some information about this wonderful and elite gift.
What is Stuttering?
How common is stuttering?
About 1% of adults stutter, which means you interact with people who stutter every single day, even if you don’t realise it. Many become very good at hiding it!
Can you grow out of a stutter?
Some people do, many don’t. I believe adulthood stuttering isn’t about “outgrowing” it, rather understanding and learning how to work with it.
Is stuttering just saying words slowly or repeating sounds?
No. That’s just the visible part. Stuttering is neurological and often involves blocks, tension, anticipation, and timing issues inside the brain.
Is stuttering more common in males or females?
It’s more common in males, especially in adulthood. The reasons are still being studied, and recovery rates differ between genders.
Can you control your stutter?
Yes! I am proof that you can. Please remember that for me, this control often comes at the cost of feeling mentally and physically exhausted.
My friend repeats words sometimes, does that mean they stutter?
No. Everyone repeats words under pressure or excitement. Stuttering is persistent and involuntary, not occasional hesitation.
Is stuttering a mental illness?
No. It’s neurological, not psychological, though anxiety can make it louder.
Does stuttering affect intelligence or learning?
Absolutely not!
Does stuttering make dating or social life harder?
It can, if you let it. I told my partners from the beginning and gave them permission to laugh with me! When I took ownership, people respected me more and some women even said they found it attractive!
Is stuttering hereditary?
There’s a genetic component however these genetics don’t decide how powerful your voice can be.